Expat Dating France Frequently Asked Questions

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General

Welcome to Expat Dating France



About you....

This site is for you - An online dating site in France for expats or 'hope to be' expats!

With Expat Dating France, dating in France just got easier.


Join up and take a look around, search broad and narrow, check out everyone on site.


You will find other expats in France sharing the same experiences as you, the same challenges as you and the same language as you. We all speak English here!


Finding dates in a large country like France is difficult unless it is on-line.

We have tried to make the site as easy as possible, try it out and find out. Tell us if you have difficulties.

Romance is the dream and we do everything we can to help you find the dream.


And - There is more than just romance to be found, this is a social site as well as a dating site.

It’s also about bringing people together and getting connected.

Touring France or on holiday? Why not drop someone a line to see if they’d like to meet up for a coffee, just for fun, to make friends – it’s good to get connected!

France is a big place, but it can seem  a lot smaller when you know you have friends in and around the regions. And friends may become dates, who knows?


About us....

We want to help you and look after you, treat you as we would like to be treated. We are an independent, privately owned and run dating site here in France and everyone is important to us.


YOUR PRIVACY….is vitally important. We are dedicated to providing a service to you that is safe, private, respectable and respectful. We only accept around 1 in 3 applications, because we only have authentic, serious members here.


We do NOT sell your data or share it with anyone.

Anti hacking, profiling and Internet security are a primary function of our technical team. We are dedicated to looking after you, to provide you with our best service and protect your privacy. And all at a very reasonable price!


Want to read more...There is lots more about us on the 'About us' page, which can be found at the bottom of the page.


warm regards,

Katie May and the team at Expat Dating France


Success Stories!

Andrea and Brian's story...

We do have many successes on this site and sometimes we are given permission to share them. 

Andrea and Brian met in summer 2013 on our site - they have recently got engaged!

Theirs is a great story - an example of how luck and perseverance can make a huge difference. Despite coming from opposite sides of the world and living in opposite ends of France, they still made it work!

Andrea and Brian have kindly allowed us to share their story. The following are messages they have sent to me over the last couple of years and tells their story in their own words...


Dear Katie,

Well. Baldeagle (Brian) and I have got together last summer of 2013 and are very happy. Thanks to your site, we have a new life together and a new lease on life. 
From Mapleleaf (Andrea
)

I received that message in May 2014. The following month Andrea kindly contacted me again...

A word of thanks to KM and the staff at Expat Dating. Last summer, when the site first came online, we signed up for a month each with little expectation. Amazingly we found each other! We are both English speakers from opposite sides of the world and opposite sides of France. After emails and long phone conversations, we met in the middle. We are six hours drive apart. It was love at first sight! We have been together ever since and spend part of our year in one place and part in the other. As retired people in our 60's, it is a perfect arrangement. We both feel very, very lucky to have found each other and without Expat Dating France, we never would! A big thanks to Expat Dating and we send lots of encouragement to members to keep on talking to people. It really does work! Brian and Andrea

This year, it being 2015 we all caught up with each other again and Brian and Andrea told me their wonderful news...


Hello Katie! 

 

Well, a lot has happened.  First, we are still together, more strongly than ever! We sold my place in Lyon and have purchased a place in Portugal where we plan to spend the winter months. We will be spending the summers in the Charente because it is simply too hot for this Canadian in Portugal!  But, I think with a bit of air conditioning, I could be persuaded to move there permanently.  It hasn't been all a bed of roses. Brian has some medical issues and I had an operation for thyroid cancer last year. But, we stuck together and helped each other through it and are really looking forward to the future. We got engaged on August 22nd and plan to marry in September 2016. 

We were really lucky because we talked a lot on the telephone before we met - because of the distance - and we knew by the time we met that we basically liked each other, that we shared a sense of humour and basic attitudes towards life. 

We were really fortunate with the site and I hope others are as lucky as we have been. 
My advice is to look at the good qualities in people and you will discover that there's lots to see just beneath the surface - and most of of it is good!  

Andrea and Brian

(dated November 1st 2015)

Reading their messages made me very emotional, it is wonderful to hear how they each other and that we were able to help them.

Andrea's advice is worth noting; look for the good in people. 
Add to that, positive thinking and perseverance - these are the keys to finding your partner. 

We would like to offer our heartfelt congratulations to Andrea and Brian and wish them every happiness.


Andy and Sandra's story - is distance an issue?


Would you let distance stand in the way of your future happiness?
Here's a story from one of our happy couples who did not let anything get in their way, including distance!

 

"Dear Katie,

 

It is a pleasure to tell you about our experiences of using your website, https://www.expatdatingfrance.com/, and the relationship that grew following our meeting on it.

In the first instance Sandra and I began using the messaging service on your site to chat having first seen our respective profiles on your website.


We quickly realised we had a lot in common and decided to talk on Skype to see if the mutual understanding remained positive during face-to-face conversations; this went very well and after a few weeks we decided to meet and spend a day or so getting to know each other.


We quickly realised we were like two peas in a pod and could, and still do, know what the other is thinking and very often have the same thoughts at precisely the same time.


We then arranged to visit one another’s homes, a big undertaking as we lived over 5 hours apart; over the next few months this too went very well.  We enjoyed one another’s company so much that we began discussing moving in together and where we could settle down and make our permanent home.

In the meantime Sandra moved in with me and rented out her house so we could prepare my home for sale; this also allowed us to travel around together looking for an ideal location and property. 


We found a buyer for the house and, as luck would have it, we immediately stumbled upon our dream home.


We are now looking forward to our ‘new’ future together and are certain of the fact that without the help of https://www.expatdatingfrance.com/ we would never have met.  


So thank you very much for the service your website provided us and we hope it continues and remains as successful for others as it proved in our case.


From Andy and Sandra."

Richard's story

Hi Katie,

Thought I'd drop you a line personally as I joined your excellent dating service when you first started it and you have always been very kind and understanding. Whilst I found a date on your site which lasted for 15 months, that came to an end earlier this year as we weren't compatible long term.

I have however now found a partner, whom I originally met a couple of years ago whilst I was working, and are looking at a long term relationship for the future. I always used to think that a long distance relationship wouldn't work but with her living and working in England, it shows anything can happen when you put your mind to it.

I am grateful to for your help over the past few years but the time has now come where I am taking myself off your site.

Sad in a way but good in another. I wish you all the very best with your relationship as you deserve the best.
I admire you for the way you started Expat Dating, bringing people together in search of happiness and finding love yourself. As you know in life, we go through terrible ordeals which are not of our own making but, life is a short journey and we have to make the most of it and all credit to those that do. Whilst we never forget, we can look forward to the future and smile and those that smile the most, can be the happiest as they are rich in spirit.

Chris and Mandy - Our first couple...

We have had so many great stories here on https://www.expatdatingfrance.com/

It's makes us all so happy to hear how people make their own dreams come true.

Here are a few emails from our very first couple, Chris and Mandy who met on our site. We received the first email from Mandy on August 16th 2013.

Hi Katie May,

Is there anywhere for success stories because I think you have one already.  I've met the most amazing guy.  I'm totally besotted.  I never thought I'd feel like this again.  All thanks to you.

Mandy xx

 

The next email was received on August 19th 2013 from both Mandy and Chris, telling us all out their new romance.

Hi Katie May,

Just a few lines to say a huge THANK YOU!

I've met a wonderful lady called Mandy.

From the moment she contacted me, I knew we had loads in common (both mad!). She lives 2 hours south of me, which is tedious since she doesn't drive, but boy was it ever worth the trip!

We have shared motorbike rides, walks in the countryside, picnics, hot tubs while watching shooting stars, - the whole romantic 9 yards!

I'm in my 50s and she's in her 40s, yet we both feel like love-struck teenagers for the first time in decades.

Obviously, we both have history, neither of us has had it easy in the past, yet we still can't believe that we've found each other this late in life. We are absolute soul-mates, yet without you we wouldn't even have known that the other existed.

THANK YOU!

Chris & Mandy

 

Another email was received a year later with more good news from both Chris and Mandy.

Hi Katiemay,

Just a quick message to tell you that tomorrow (6th August) will be mine and Mandy's One Year Anniversary, and we're even more in love than ever!

I believe we were your first ever success story - and what a success! - We've done some amazing things together, and next year will be even better. We're buying a brand new Harley in the spring and will be going to the annual Harley rally at Grimaud, just outside Cannes. It would be great to meet you if you're anywhere near there, and thank you in person.

If not THANK YOU anyway - if it wasn't for you, we wouldn't have had the best year of our lives so far!!

Best wishes

Chris & Mandy.

 

The last update received just a few weeks ago read...

Hi Katie,

Well as with all relationships there are their up's and downs. But the downs are very few and only due to our incredible stubborness. We're still madly in love and hope to move in together this year. We couldn't have been this happy without your site. I hope it's going well for you and I hope that you've managed to help many more together find the kind of happiness that Chris and I have together.

Big hugs and many thanks

Mandy xxxx

 

Congratulations Chris and Mandy for making your dream life in France work out and we wish you both all the very best for the future.

Darren's story

I joined https://www.expatdatingfrance.com/ a couple of years back. I met a lot of new people and one special one.

When I first joined up I was only looking to meet people –
well ladies ….anyway for a bit of company and a laugh.

I moved to France in 2013 and started off with a van moving stuff up and down the country for anybody who asked. As I was travelling around I used to drop by and meet ladies from off the site.
Usually just for friends, getting to know people in what ever area I was in, it was a bit of fun …and sometimes it was more than that and sometimes it wasn’t.

Eventually I got close with Sue who lives near Beziers. We were seeing a lot of each other and having lots of fun going out dancing, bars and restaurants and having a great time.

I had also got to know Jackie who lived up near Cognac, she had an old farm house and kept dogs, cats, sheep, a donkey, chickens and all that stuff. I felt really at home when i stayed over there and would help fix the place up. There was a lot to do – she was trying to renovate but she had been left on her own, so she was struggling. I really enjoyed all that stuff and she appreciated it too.

For quite a long time I would drop in on either Sue or Jackie whenever i was travelling near them. Truth be told I looked for jobs that would take me close by.

Then one night I had to leave my van at Sue’s for the weekend and fly to UK. When i got back all hell let loose. Sue found out about Jackie, had got mad at me, contacted jackie, then they both got mad at me. I must have left something in the van and Sue found it.

The thing is, I never started off looking for anything serious, I just drifted into it, ….seeing both of them.

I saw it differently than they did. To me, I hadn’t said i was commited, exclusive or anything. not even that i was their boyfriend.

Anyway, after a few angry emails, neither of them spoke to me.

Then after a while, Sue calmed down and wrote to me, she’d found another fella and was feeling guilty about Jackie. I didn’t think she should have said anything to Jackie either, but that’s water under the bridge and all that. What’s done was done.

Although I’d had a lot of fun with Sue, I knew it was only that and we wouldn’t get serious or anything. I said to her it was Ok and wished her luck…..

Jackie was always different. She was quieter, much calmer and I had sort of felt that maybe i could settle down with her. She was a lot different than my usual girl friends.
She also took things more seriously. I knew from the couple of emails she had sent me: that she felt betrayed, said she couldn’t trust me and didn’t want to have anything else to do with me. Nothing I tried to say or wrote made her see it any other way either.

After that, I let things go for a long time, but …..when ever I was near her place I’d think about her. I guess I missed her.

Then one day I just thought I would go and see her. There was nothing to lose, she was mad at me anyway, worse that could happen is she told me to get lost.

So i went and she tried to be angry but she wasn’t.
I took her a bag of chicken feed, because I’d always talked to the chickens and collected the eggs when I was there. She laughed when i gave it to her.

Since then we’ve been together – that’s about the best part of a year now. I try not to travel so much and we’ve done up her place now. …it feels like home, the first real place that’s felt like home in a long time. I hope it stays like this, we are really happy.

Hope you’re doing good too.
Saw your photo, you’re a real looker!
cheers,
Darren


Claire's Story

Hi Katie,

I don’t know if my story is interesting or not. It’s just what happened to me.

I feel like I’ve lived in France for ever, but it’s only around 8 years. My first husband had this big dream about moving here and being self sufficient, a bit like the ‘Good Life’. I was all for it, I was so sick of our tedious lives comuting to work in the rain and dark, then back again at night, very tired from long hours and not having much enthusiasm for anything.

We sold our town house in Oxford and kept our little cottage in Wales, then we bought a lovely big place in the country side in a very remote part of France. There were pretty stone villages, dusty lanes lined by Plane trees, lavender, rosemary, the whole, wonderful dream. We had a blissful time putting our few acres in order, engaging builders to sort out the house, started our orchard and vegetable garden. We had chickens, ducks, dogs cats, it was a very happy time. But it was expensive, a great deal more than we thought it would be. It must be a long time since anyone could live in France on a pittance, we certainly couldn’t.

The roof became a crisis point. We’d been there a few years and although we could live off our land, it didn’t pay the bills and there were a great many of them. Our Welsh cottage was rented and that just enabled us to get by. We had thought that the roof was reasonable when we purchased the property but probably knew it would need work eventually. That proved to be correct.
One night a huge storm ripped off half the tiles and left a lot of woodwork exposed. We had the tiles replaced as a temporary fix, but it needed a new roof as it now leaked badly and the wood was rotten. None of the banks would lend us any money. We had the choice of selling the house in Wales or my husband going back to work in England for a while to raise some cash.

My husband took a job he’d been offered and returned to teach in Oxford for a few terms. I stayed to look after the house, animals and land. It was difficult on my own but I managed it and my husband came back and forth as often as he could.
Then he started making excuses why he couldn’t get back, at first I accepted them but it didn’t take long for me to become suspicious. When he came home after a 5 week stay in Oxford I confronted him and he admitted that he was seeing someone else. He cried, I shouted and cried and it was a very emotional mess. It ended soon after. He was adamant that he was leaving, I could have the house and everything in France.

It took over 2 years to sort out  the legal side of things and when it was complete I had the hosue but I hadn’t got an income of my own. I used a smal legacy to employ the builders and had the house split up to make a couple of gites and a small place for myself. As I taught art, I set up art holidays and also self sufficiency holidays for those with the same ideas as we had. It kept me solvent, but all my visitors were couples and families. I never had time to go out on my own and meet anyone, so I remained alone.

One quiet winter evening I was going through the computer and saw your site. It wasn’t anything I had thought of before, I didn’t even know there was anything like it in France. It took me a few days to find the nerve to join. A few weeks went by and I received a message from James. He was such a pleasant man, well educated, knowledgable, kind and thoughtful. After a couple of weeks chatting online he came to visit me for a few days, staying in one of the gites. Now it’s over a year later and he’s moved in. We are so happy. I didn’t expect any thing like this would happen to me. I don’t think he did either.

May we both thank you and wish you the best too. I heard you say you had married and was very pleased to hear it. Good luck.

kind wishes,

Claire

Our first wedding on Expatdatingfrance.com

 

The first Expatdatingfrance wedding!!

 

This story is in Jan's own words, dated April 2014.

 

"I've found my lovely man at first attempt, although he had to persevere, waiting for me to join!

I saw your site advertised on Anglo-info Brittany and clicked on it out of curiosity.  After looking through several profiles found one that matched everything I've always looked for and admired in a man, so I joined and emailed him, which took a bit of courage on my part. I received an almost instant reply saying he'd already looked at my profile and was interested.  Emails, 'phone calls and visits later, we're busy trying to work out how we can be together permanently.

 

Having been widowed over 10 years ago after an extremely happy marriage, I never thought I would find someone else - but as they say in a certain well-known song 'love is lovelier the

second time around'!

Our story is one of two extremes - he had to persevere until I arrived on the site, and I hit the jackpot first time out!"

 

Jan caught up with me recently in 2015 to pass on the news....

 

"Mike and I married on the 19th September here in France at our local Mairie.  We had a wonderful day celebrating with friends and family from UK,  French neighbours from where I lived in Brittany before moving to be with Mike, other local ex-pats, and  many French friends.  As you may remember from our earlier comments, it took Mike a few attempts before we found each other, but I hit the jackpot from the first contact!

 

Only advice I can offer is that if you don't try you will never know if there's someone out there waiting for you.

 

Not sure if we're the first 'marrieds' thanks to you, but am sure we're one of the happiest!

 

Just to let you know that flowers arrived this morning. Thank you so much, they are really lovely."



Another wonderful success story..

Hi Katiemay. Thanks to your excellent dating website I have now found a perfect match. I never dream, when I started looking, that I would be given the opportunity to be introduced to so many intelligent, kind and friendly ladies. May I take this opportunity to wish Expat Dating your subscribers a merry Christmas and a Happy new year.

Please can you remove me from your list. Once again many thanks.

Best regards, Michael (Kemptown)

P. S. If you wish to use any part of this email As a recommendation, please do so.



Help and advice

You are more than just your profile photo....

Finding your partner for life is priceless - so what does it take to find that sort of happiness?

 

All it really takes is being positive - here's a few helpful hints....


The key to success is all about reaching out and sharing yourself. Some people already realise this, others are a touch too reserved and wondering why they aren't getting very far.

 

Your profile photo says a lot, but it is like looking at the front of a house - it doesn't show the warm, comfortable, welcoming, friendly you within. It doesn't show your humour, your interests, your ideas or your talents.

 

You are much more than your profile image - so take steps to reveal all the many facets of who you are.


This is not as difficult as it seems - start by putting up more photos. Photos of yourself and of your world - where you have been, what interests you have, your pets, pastimes, artistic ability, even the view from your window - whatever !  Remember - if it interests you, it will interest others.
 

Photographs can illustrate much of who you are, but there is even more to you than that, so you need to go further

Open the door to the person you are behind the profile picture and allow your future partner to see the real you...and you see them because they should be doing the same thing!

 

It's about acting positive and a little effort from you can work miracles.
Suddenly someone realises they had not noticed you before. They realise you both have the same sense of humour, you like doing the same things, love the same places. They look twice, then some more and then who knows what can happen. Just do it - you have everything to gain and nothing to lose!

  

And finally -well we all know that timing is the fickle factor.

If your future love is not here now right now, they will be one day. You know you have done all you can. Keep checking in, keep your profile fresh and updated and when your future partner finally arrives on site, they can find you and you can find them.

Think positive, act positive and when the time is right, all your efforts will pay off.


Some words of advice!

BE ACTIVE

1. If you want to get noticed – put up a pic! ‘A picture paints a thousand words’ and how true that is.
The first thing anyone notices is what you look like. Have you ever tried to make friends while hiding your face behind your hands, or chatting to someone from under a blanket? It doesn’t work, so put up a profile photo.

There is no need to be shy or concerned about your looks. Unless you are a film star you will look as normal and lived in as every one else. Be positive and show that you’ve got what it takes to face the world without fear. There is someone for everyone but they are never going to find you if you remain hidden in the shadows. So if you really want to make this site work for you, put up a photo or two and get involved.

Your Profile

Take some time to write about yourself. You are unique and that special someone wants to hear all about you. So imagine you are speaking to them, then write it down. Be realistic, not too flowery, don’t exagerate too far and don’t be overly modest either. If you are a little shy about sharing yourself, ask a friend to give you a hand or to write it for you. It’s a nice experience and think how much you’ll enjoy reading someone else’s story as well.

Be Proactive

I’m repeating myself here – because what I’ve said above is about being proactive. But you need to go even further than that, you need to think about your comfort zone and then extend it. Talk to other people, send messages, ask about the region of France they live in, what experiences they’ve had, how they found their house, car, cat – whatever. We all have a lot in common here so breaking the ice should not be too difficult. You’ve made the first step by joining the site. Now jump in with both feet and have some fun.

Ask that dreamy looking guy why he’s in France, why he’s alone, what’s he having for dinner. Or that beautiful woman why she lives in Brittany and how sad that you live in Provence, but just think what fun it would be if you both met up in Paris…

And this does bring me on to one issue. France is a big country and we’re scattered all around it. In a perfect world our ideal match would live in the next village. But the world is very far from being perfect. Your ideal partner could live many miles from you, so you have to ask yourself – ‘do I miss out on the love of my life because some twist of fate led them to live in the furtherest corner of the country’. Or do you get to know them via messaging, telephone and video? It’s your choice, but we all knew when we came to live here that it would not be easy, because nothing ever is and you may end up visiting all corners of France and meeting lots of people and realising that it’s not such a bad idea after all.



WORDS OF CAUTION

There are some things that also need to be said even though they mostly come under the heading of ‘the totally obvious’.
Apply common sense at ALL times. There are scammers and scoundrels on and off the net. If you met an interesting stranger in a bar you would proceed with caution. If you meet a stranger on the internet proceed with the same caution, and then add some.

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER give money to strangers, no matter how wonderfully touching their tale of heroics and tragedy may be. If you have any problems or worries about this PLEASE DON’T DO IT. If someone is asking for money, tell a friend, talk it over and get a second opinion. If you want to write to us, please do, our reply will always be the same – DON’T DO IT.



We do monitor this site carefully, but it is impossible to guarantee we will find all the scammers and scoundrels, so beware and apply some simple common sense to any situation.


This also applies when meeting someone in person. Think about the situation. Don’t do things you would warn others about. Don’t meet in dark, lonely locations, make sure someone knows where you are. Don’t give out your address, don’t go to someone’s house, don’t get in someone’s car.
Think SAFE and act accordingly.



I’m sorry if all this seems obvious and I’m sounding like a school teacher, but you’d be surprised what people do when caught up in all the excitement of a first date. Enjoy yourself, have a ball, but make sure these experiences are good and take appropriate precautions.




K.I.S.S....

Simple steps to find, follow and contact that special someone...

Search
Bookmark
Follow
Say Bonjour
Send an emoticon

Search - can be as wide or narrow as you decide. Use quick search on Dashboard for a search by location.
Or - to see everyone, just put in your gender and the gender you are looking for and press 'search'. This brings up everyone of the chosen gender on the site. You will need to be patient though, there are hundreds to scroll through.

Bookmark - when you find one or more members you like the look of, bookmark them to easily find them again on your Dashboard page. You can bookmark someone by going onto their profile page, clicking on 'more' and then 'bookmark'.

Follow - follow those you admire. Every time they put up a photo, make a comment or refine their profile page, you will see it in your Newsfeed on your Dashboard page. They will not know you are following them unless you tell them.
Most people are being followed by someone, so give your fans something to see - put up photos, make comments and spruce up your profile page!

Say Bonjour - bonjour is an ice breaker. A nice greeting to someone you like. They will receive a notification that you have said Bonjour. Once accepted, you will both be connected and once subscribed, you will both be able to chat and send and receive messages.

Send an emoticon - Emoticons are always free. You can send one to someone by going to their profile, clicking on 'more' and opting for 'send emoticon'. There are lots to choose from and we are always adding more. They are a great way to send a little note! Send a few, send lots! Have fun and spread a little joy around!

And finally - don't forget our great discount subscription offer is running now. You do not have to subscribe to browse round and check out profiles, or say Bonjour', or send an emoticon but to contact someone, you will need to do so.

10 steps to dating success on Expatdatingfrance.com

Some people just breeze onto the site, put up a few pics, connect with their chosen one and 'bang' they're off, hand in hand into the sunset.

But it isn't always that easy! It was 4 very long years before I got together with my partner for life and many of us know what it's like being alone for a long time.

It's not for want to trying either, somehow the right the right person isn't around or we just haven't got the hang of dating.

First thing to realise is that it's not really dating, it's communication we need to think about. The dates come once you've opened up and got connected.

Here's 10 simple steps to make connecting easier.

1. Photos are the key.

Your profile photo is the first thing anyone is going to see. Do yourself a huge favour and put up a good one. I don't mean you need to look like a film star, you need to look like you. It should be a reflection of who you are.
If you're a glam puss, show it off.
If you're a country lover, get your tweeds out.
If you're  sporty type, put your skis on.
What ever!
Go through your photo albums, pick out a clear photo of your self and put it up. If you are a bit unsure, ask someone, us if you like - we are always happy to help.


TIP - some camera photos are big files, over 5 MGs sometimes. Make life easy and screen shot your favourite photos, this reduces the size easily and they will upload much faster. If you are unsure how to screen shot, search google on 'how to take a screen shot' for your device. It is one of the easiest and most useful functions you will learn!

2.Your profile page - 'About me'.


What interests you? What do you like to read about people you are interested in?

Ask yourself these questions and then think about the answers.

The answers are what you will write on your profile page.

Where do you live?

Why are you single?

Star sign - if it means something to you, put it up.

Languages?

Hobbies?

Location - Why are you where you are?

Are you a travel hound - so where are your favourite destinations?

Sporty - What do you enjoy?

Working - What do you do?

Mention all those that relate to you and then add some. If you have a great sense of humour, say so, tell a joke!

People who look at your profile page want to know about you, so do them a favour and help them out....



3.'About the person I would like to meet.'


Well this is over to you!

Generally it is best to leave this to age range, interests and a friendly note, such as 'would love to find music lover to share a night at the opera', or I'm a great cook, fancy swapping recipes?'.

Try not to be overly ambitious. 'Energetic 69 year old seeking 20 something play bunny' isn't going to work. (Well maybe it will, but it rather narrows your choices!)

Be realistic here and above all - be positive. Negative will dampen your chances faster than anything else.



4. Keep your profile fresh.

When you join and fill in your profile page, don't think 'well that's done with now'.

Every so often go back over your page and freshen it up. Add to it, edit it, change your profile pic sometimes.

Just do it when you feel like it, it's not a weekly chore. But it will make a difference because it adds another dimension of who you are.





5. Show who 'you' are.

Your profile page is a bit like the front of your house. Make it look great because it really does reflect a lot about who you are.
 But there is more to you than that.

You have a sense of humour. Show it!

Write up a joke under 'what's happening', put up a funny photo on your wall, share your favourite books and films by recommending them, mention plays or concerts you've been to, with snaps of the event.

If you are artistic - upload pics of your at work, your beautiful garden, your landscape photos, your carefully crafted woodwork, your renovated house.

Whatever appeals to you, put it up. And keep on putting things up. Feed through photos, jokes, funnies, comments, whatever, when you are in the mood.

Let the real you emerge, show your different facets and treat it like the 'dance of the seven veils' - reveal yourself over time and have fun doing it.


6. K.I.S.S.



Getting in touch - how scary is that!!

Up till now it's all been putting your best foot forward. Now you've got to get connected - after all that's what it's really about.
Expatdatingfrance.com has been designed to keep it as easy as we can. It's also free to get connected. This gives you the chance to test things out and get in touch without having it costing you anything.

Start off with these free and simple steps.


Search
Bookmark
Follow
Bonjour
Fire off an emoticon

Search - can be as wide or narrow as you decide. Use quick search on Dashboard for a search by location.
Or - to see everyone, just put in your gender and the gender you are looking for and press 'search'. This brings up everyone of the chosen gender on the site. You will need to be patient though, there are hundreds to scroll through.

Bookmark - when you find one or more members you like the look of, bookmark them to easily find them again on your Dashboard page. You can bookmark someone by going onto their profile page, clicking on 'more' and then 'bookmark'.

Follow - follow those you admire. Every time they put up a photo, make a comment or refine their profile page, you will see it in your Newsfeed on your Dashboard page. They will not know you are following them unless you tell them.
Most people are being followed by someone, so give your fans something to see - put up photos, make comments and spruce up your profile page!

Say Bonjour - bonjour is an ice breaker. A nice greeting to someone you like. They will receive a notification that you have said Bonjour. Once accepted, you will both be connected and once subscribed, you will both be able to chat and send and receive messages.

Send an emoticon - Emoticons are always free. Send one to the person of your choice by going to their profile, clicking on 'more' and opting for 'send emoticon'. There are lots to choose from and we are always adding more. They are a great way to send a little note! Send lots! It's free and fun. Spread a little joy!



7. Communicating


And now for the exciting bit...talking to other people! Having checked everyone out and decided to make an approach, what to say?

Their profile is always a good starting point.
If you both love boats and hill walking you will already have things in common.
Pets, holiday destinations you've visited, where you grew up....all easy going, simple conversational points.

Having opened a conversation, don't think that you must indulge in witty banter or philosophy or the hot topics of the day. We're older and not much wiser. Second time around is different, now we've got baggage, children, debts and most of our conversations are with the dog.

So just be you, be honest about your life, don't be negative about things or other people or your ex; it's a major turn off. Just chat and let things roll gradually along. It's not a competition, no one minds and if someone does then it’s unlikely they're a good match for you anyway. Most people talk about their everyday lives and if not, then their views on life, love and the latest TV series.

It is fun to get to know someone new, treat it like that and it will flow much more easily.

And yes, we do charge for this - we are deeply sorry, but we have to eat! We are the cheapest site in France, starting from only 5euro a month. We are the best value around, so take advantage and get the cheapest option for the longest time. It's economic, it's less stressful and gives you loads of time to find your dream.


8. Now what?

Well - are you ready to meet? In person? Really? Did you do all that stuff above already?

Brilliant!

Let me ask...did you skype or video chat?

It's important for many reasons and you'd be amazed how many people don't do it and get a major shock when they meet up first time.


I had such a fun time once, messaging and chatting with a great guy and he wanted to leap in the car for a 3 hour trip and come visit me within a week of starting to chat. I was all for it, but then said 'hang on a sec'!

We skyped and instantly both realised it wasn't going to work.

I don't know what it was, but that spark just wasn't there. We had a nice chat online and I had the old 'dinner in the oven' get-out cue. Then we both wrote to each other saying that we would be great friends but didn't think it would work out otherwise.
Sad - but you just got to say it like it is.

So try to keep balanced about this. Not everything is going to work out and sometimes you need to hold back and take a reality check. Make sure you video chat or skype first, it could save you a long trip and a difficult conversation.

9. First Encounters


OK, this is it!

You have done all of the above, you can't wait to meet, you feel like a teenager again and have spent days trying on outfits.

You're going on a first date!!

Distance should not matter. We managed to move all the way from our home countries to find our French dream. Worrying about travelling across part of France to find someone to share that dream with should never deter you.
Distance need not be a problem, it can even add to the fun; the anticipated arrival after a long drive, a weekend stopover or meeting up in a pretty country hotel midway between the two of you. See it as a positive way to add spice and fun to your life.


You've probably got a favourite location in mind. We are so lucky that there are many lovely areas of France to visit, finding somewhere you can both easily get to shouldn't be too difficult.

Lunch is probably the easiest option, unless they live nearby, in which case take your pick. I met up with a nice guy in our local cafe and brought my friend along just in case. She sat in the corner reading a newspaper! It wasn't necessary, but it was funny. I had a great time, it came to naught eventually but it was so exciting to have someone pay attention to me and go out exploring with.

The point is, it's not likely to happen straight away. You may be one of the lucky ones, but mostly it takes a lot of time. Enjoy the process, enjoy meeting new people, making friends, dressing up, exploring new places. Have fun.

It can be anxious if things don't go the way you want, but it is part of life, part of the journey we must all make. Having a relaxed attitude towards dating and meeting new people is what will make it work for you. Easy to say I know and we all risk a little heartbreak along the way. But the dream lies at the end of the journey and it truly does happen for so many people.
We don't know when, where or with whom - just be open to it and one day, everything will fall into place.



WORDS OF CAUTION

There are some things that also need to be said even though they mostly come under the heading of ‘the totally obvious’.
Apply common sense at ALL times. There are scammers and scoundrels on and off the net. If you met an interesting stranger in a bar you would proceed with caution. If you meet a stranger on the Internet proceed with the same caution, and then add some.

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER give money to strangers, no matter how wonderfully touching their tale of heroics and tragedy may be. If you have any problems or worries about this PLEASE DON’T DO IT. If someone is asking for money, tell a friend, talk it over and get a second opinion. If you want to write to us, please do, our reply will always be the same – DON’T DO IT.

We do monitor this site carefully, but it is impossible to guarantee we will find all the scammers and scoundrels, so beware and apply some simple common sense to any situation.

Think about the situation. Don’t do things you would warn others about. Don’t meet in dark, lonely locations, make sure someone knows where you are. Don’t give out your address, don’t go to someone’s house, don’t get in someone’s car.
Think SAFE and act accordingly.

I’m sorry if all this seems obvious and I’m sounding like a school teacher, but you’d be surprised what people do when caught up in all the excitement of a first date. Enjoy yourself, have a ball, but make sure these experiences are good and take appropriate precautions.


10. And finally...

This is a big country!
Make France seem smaller. If you are travelling the country get in touch with someone local from the site. They will know the local area and meeting for lunch, coffee or just a chat is a great way to break a journey. It won't take long to find friends all over France and sometimes friendship can turn to romance.

Take advantage of all the site has to offer.
Make friends, have fun with your profile, share your funny/interesting/silly/weird/prettiest photos.

Let yourself go a little and open up. Shine in your own lovely light!

Reach out, your next soul mate may be shy. Make it easy for them to find you.

NEVER give up. What do you have to lose in being on site. So your first encounter didn't work. Who cares, no-one's going to stop you achieving what you set your mind on. Just DO IT!

And when it has worked for you, please, please let me know. I will not share it with a soul unless you specifically state I can. But I would love to hear your story and wish you much good luck for the future.


If you have any issues you would like to discuss with us, or just a helping hand, please get in touch. We will do all we can, including checking out your profile to see if we can offer advice in any way.

We are always happy to help.

Trouble Shooting

I clicked on a link but the site won't let me in.

If you try to enter the site through an external link, such as a notification email of a message , emoticon or 'match', you may see a notice saying you have limited permissions.

This can be because you are not signed in.
Goto the top right of your screen and click on 'sign in'.

Why have I been signed out?
Your computer/device will probably run auto updates, most computers do, and if these updates involve a need to restart the device then it will sign you out of all sites you have open. These usually happen during the night so we are not always aware of them. They are not from us, but from whoever made your device/apps/software/servers etc.

My message will not send.

If you see an error message after trying to send a message it is probably because you have not put in a subject. If this is not the case please contact us and we will sort the problem out.

How do I delete a comment I made on newsfeed?

If you want to remove your comments on newsfeed, there is a drop down box on the top right where you can delete the comment.

Problems replying to Messages. iPads and browsers

Some old browsers can cause problems when replying to messages.
Updating chrome, firefox, internet explorer should fix this issue. But old ipads with safari cannot be updated beyond safari 5, nowadays only 6 and up can support most new software.
If you are having problems replying to messages, it is easier to send a new message instead, which all browsers should support with out problem.
Either click on the new message box or go to the profile of the person you wish to send a message to and click on 'send private message'.
Don't forget - send Bonjours first, which need to be accepted to open up a dialogue.

Slow bandwidths make the problem worst. 


Could you try this before testing the site again...


To clear cache from an iPad,

Go to general,

Scroll down the left side to safari,

Look on the right until you find clear history and website data.

Click on it. It should go from red to blue.

Here's a screen shot showing where to find Safari and clear history from it...





I can't reply to a message?

Some old browsers can cause problems when replying to messages.
Updating chrome, firefox, internet explorer should fix this issue. But old ipads with safari cannot be updated beyond safari 5, nowadays only 6 and up can support most new software.
If you are having problems replying to messages, it is easier to send a new message instead, which all browsers should support with out problem.
Either click on the new message box or go to the profile of the person you wish to send a message to and click on 'send private message'.
Don't forget - send Bonjours first, which need to be accepted to open up a dialogue.
If you need more help, please don't hesitate to ask via 'contact us'.

I can't close my message box

We all see the site differently  according to the devide we are using.
Usually just clicking on 'messages' on the top right of your screen will close the box.
If not, then try clicking on the logo on the top left of your screen, which will return you to the home page. Or Click on the drop down box top left of your screen, which looks like a series of black lines. This will allow you to move to another part of the site and will close your messages when doing so.
If you do have issues like this please contact us and we will do all we can to help.

How to prevent someone contacting you

You are able to block people you prefer not to communicate with.
Go onto the member's profile, clicking on 'more' and there is an option to block on the list. Choose that.

You will still see them on your chat list but if they try to contact you they will see a message....

'Sorry, this user chooses not to interact with you'
This works with private messaging, follow, chat, Bonjour and emoticons.

If someone is bothering you please let us know and we will do all we can to help.

I'm not sure if my messages have been sent or received

To check if your message has been sent (and therefore received) click on 'messages' at the top right of your screen. Then click on the green section which reads 'view all'.

This will then show all your sent and received private messages and chat messages. If a message is shown here, it is confirmation it has have been sent and received.


All your messages will appear and look like something like this...


My chat boxes will not close

You may have 2 chat boxes open.
The box where you actually type your text can be closed by clicking on the x, top right of the chat box.

The main chat box, where you find your contacts is bottom right of your screen.
You can close this by clicking on the red x top right of the box. 





If you're having problems finding the top of the chat box, use your scroll bar on the right hand side to scroll up or down. If this is not obvious, reduce the screen on your device until the top of the box appears.

I can't see all of a message thread in my messages

If you are trying to look back through your messages with someone, use the scroll bar at the side of the message to scroll up and down. On some devices this is not obvious so run your cursor along the right side of the message box till it appears.


The basics and How to's

HOW TO FIND THE MENU AND GET AROUND THE SITE

To access the menu on a Mobile or Tablet, you need to click on the menu list which looks like a series of lines top left of your screen. This will then open a drop down box. Click on any of the items to access that feature.


 Once you've found your menu, you can go anywhere. 




There are so many different device types and browsers nowadays that we all get a different view of the site. A computer will always give the best results, but you may not always have access to one. 












The Top Menu is the key to navigating the site. You will find it easily on a computer as it will show across the whole of your top screen. You can go anywhere from there.









Registration and your profile

Your profile is usually uploaded on registration.
Members will experience a short delay whilst these are moderated for approval.
If you see a message in red telling you an error has been made, scroll up to find which box you need to fill in.

If you need a hand please do not hesitate to CONTACT US via the contact us section below or by email to superadmin@expatdatingfrance.com


Photos are a requirement. If you get an error message it may be because your photo is too large, over 5 megabytes for instance, or too small.
 
If it comes out side ways that is because it is the way your computer saved it, the easiest way round is to screen shot the photo the right way and use that.

Screen shots will usually work for most problems. If you are not sure how to take a screen shot, search online for how to do it for your device, it is a very useful function and well worth it!
If you still have problems, let us know - we are always happy to help.

Saying Bonjour

Say 'Bonjour' to someone just to break the ice. 


Saying Bonjour will also link your profile with your chosen person so you can chat and email directly. It's a great starting point!

Changing your profile picture

Step 1

Click on the 'My Profile' on the Top Bar or on Quick Links.


Step 2

Hover over your profile picture and see the 'Change your profile photo' button appear. Click it.


Step 3

'Drag and drop an image to the screen of click the button to search your pc or device. Try to ensure the image is a jpg file and if possible it should be below 1mb in size.


Step 4 

Click save when prompted.


You can also use one from your albums. Hover over the top right of the desired photo to find a drop down box, click on this and choose 'save as avatar'.  This will then become your profile photo.


If the photo comes out sideways, it is because your computer saved it like that! Try to screen shot the original photo and then upload that instead. If you would like us to do it for you...Contact us, we are always happy to help!

Matchmaking Preferences

To access your matchmaking preferences;


Step 1

Click on 'Change your Matchmaking Settings' on Quick Links.


Step 2

A  menu will appear.


Step 3

Specify the detail of the person you are looking for using the tick boxes.

If the headings are unimportant then click the button at the end of the category.


Hint - The system uses an algorithm that matches 3 items so it is best not to add every characteristic possible or you will not receive many matches and the function will be counter productive.


Step 4

Click save at the bottom of the page.


You will be emailed to inform you of new matches. To change the way you are contacted by the website please see the FAQs on mail notifications and preferences.

How do I find all my sent and received messages?

Go to your messages by clicking on the icon (it looks like an envelope) top right of your screen and click on that.
Then click on 'view all'.
This will display all your emails and chat messages both sent and received.

Close it by clicking on the message box icon again.

Changing your password

To change your password;


Step 1

Click your user name in the top right hand corner of the page.


Step 2

Go to the 'Profile edit' heading.


Step3

Click the change password button at the top of the page.


Or 


via Dashboard click on 'Change your profile details'




NOTE - Remember this is case sensitive so if you are using a capital, you will always need to use the capital.


How to specify or stop your mail notifications

In this menu you can change how we contact you and how your account is set up.


Step 1

Hover the mouse over your user name in the top right hand corner of the screen. A drop down menu similar to the below will appear.



Step 2. Click any of this headings to be taken into a further menu and better control your profile and your account.


My preference

Click here to opt in or out of newsletters and mass mailing from the admin team at expatdatingfrance.com.


Mail notification

Click here to change how your account keeps you up to date with what is going on within the website.


Matchmaking preferences

Here you can specify some of the details of the person you are looking for.


Putting up private email and contact details

Private contact details are a no no…why?
Firstly it compromises your own privacy and leaves you vulnerable to unwanted intrusion.
Secondly it is against the spirit of this site.

We hope our fees are not hugely expensive and it allows us to run this service so that people can meet and maybe find their lifetimes partner. Some may consider that to be priceless. We keep our costs to a minimum but we cannot live on fresh air. Please do not post up private contact details and jeopardise the future of this site and spoil everyone else’s chances of happiness.

Members will be removed if they persist in trying to subvert the rules and selfishly exploit this site.

Uploading photos and the Photo Wall.

You can upload photos into your albums via the photo wall or via Quick Links.

Your profile photos will not appear on the photo wall, only album photos appear here so it is a great place to put up some arty pics, or the view from your window or your best dog!

If it says something about you or you just think it interesting, please go ahead and let's see it! (Needless to say, any transgressions against decency will promote instant removal from the site).

To upload a pic...
Step 1
Goto either your dashboard and 'Upload more photos here' under the 'Quick Links' section or goto 'Photo Wall' and choose 'upload photos'.

Step 2
Upload your photo and choose an album or create a new album.

Step 3
Click on submit.

If you are experiencing any problems, do please ensure you are choosing an album. Omitting this will cause a failure to upload.


Difference between gratuit and privilegie

Click on the subscription page and you will be able to check the benefits of upgrading your account.
Our prices are the lowest in France. Subscriptions start from only 5 euro a month - we want to be able to help everybody find somebody.

Make sure you can be found! Put up lots of photos and details about yourself, freshen up your profile from time to time. Drop in and see who's around.

It takes time to build dreams, just give it a chance!

Bookmarks

You can bookmark someone you would like to consider. This allows you to easily find their profile again. They will not know you have bookmarked them.

Bookmark members by going onto their profile, clicking on the 'more' box which drops down to reveal a number of options, including bookmark.


To remove the bookmark you can go to the profile of the person, click on 'more' and the option will be listed.

You will find all your Bookmarks on your Dashboard page.

Chat

QuickFire chat is great fun, but you do need to be privilegie to enjoy it. (It's from only 5 euro a month - wow that's cheap!).

Remember to say "Bonjour' to the person you are trying to contact first. This allows you to connect with each other. (Otherwise you would have everyone on site in your contact box and it would be jolly difficult to find the person you are looking for).

Contacting members is really quick and dialogue is private unless you invite friends in too.

Your contacts can be found on the small box bottom right of your screen.
You can search either for all your contacts or just those who are currently on line. Thos online have a small green light next to their name.

Chat is not by voice, it is only via text. The small icon of a speaker allows you turn on or off the 'ping' alert telling you when you have received a chat message.

Deleting Profiles

Please contact us and we will remove all your details from the site.
Consider suspending your profile if you intend being away for a while but don't want the hassle of registering again in the future. This way you will not lose all your messages and photos.

Newsfeeds

Newsfeeds list much of the comments and conversations currently on the site between members. Not everything and everybody is on there but they are often interesting, chatty and dynamic.
Priviligie can use the comment boxes.

If you want to remove your comments on newsfeed, there is a drop down box on the top right where you can delete the comment.

Admin profiles

These are profiles the admin team maintain. You will see me around occasionally and there are 3 other admin profiles.

We do not send out false messages, we do not maintain fakes, we are there to check the site is functioning properly and securely and that is all. We are also here to help. If you need a hand either email us, contact us or chat to us when you see us online.

We are a small, friendly company dedicated to helping you. We are very much aware that we are part of the community and we want to provide a responsible, reliable and amazing value for money service for you.

How do I edit my profile?

You can edit your profile by...


Via Dashboard, clicking on 'Change your profile details' will take you to your profile edit page.





Or by hovering the cursor over your profile name, found at the top right hand corner or on Quick Links, select 'Change your profile details'.


This will open a drop down box.


Click on profile edit.


This will open your profile in edit mode.
Save once finished.


How do I Search for ALL site members?

To view all site members...

You can use 'Search' on the main bar menu or advanced search.

Just put in the gender you are looking for and press 'search'. 


Make sure you remove your location or enter France.


This brings up everyone of the chosen gender on the site. You will need to be patient though, there are hundreds to scroll through.


IMPORTANT - You need to ensure your device has time to bring up the list, so go down to the bottom of the page and wait a sec while it continues the upload.

or...Go to the Home page,
Scroll down to users,
Click on 'view all', which takes you to advanced search. 

Only chose gender, but nothing else. This means no location is entered or you can enter 'France'.


The results will bring all female or male members on site. Be patient, it will take a long time to scroll through them all. 


IMPORTANT - You need to ensure your device has time to bring up the list, so go down to the bottom of the page and wait a sec while it continues the upload.


You can also use 'Search' on the top bar for a complete search.



What does 'Follow' mean?

If you choose to follow someone then whenever they make a comment, upload photos or whatever, you will see it in your Dashboard Newsfeed. It allows you to keep up with your friends and interests easily. They will not know you are following them unless you tell them.
Most people have followers, so be sure to keep your profile fresh and updated.

You can follow someone by going to their profile page,
Click on follow.


Messaging

Not everyone is a full member and if that is the case they will not be able to answer messages sent to them.
They will be notified that they have one.
Don’t be too concerned if you don’t get a response, it is not rudeness and they may respond eventually.

Sending private messages is best done on the recipients profile page using the 'send private message' option.

All messages will be sent to the other persons on-site inbox and if their notifications are turned on, they will receive an email into their email inbox address too.

We do not read your messages, they are private and we respect that.


This is why we rely on you letting us know if there are any suspicious characters sending out odd messages, please let us know and we will deal with it.





How to close the chat boxes

There are 2 chat boxes.
The first is to find the person you would like to chat with, this appears on the bottom right of your screen. To close it - hover over the top right of the box and an inverted arrow appears 'v'. Click on that and it will minimise to the base of the page.












The chat box for communication opens next to the box above. To close the chat box, click on the 'x' at the top right of the box.

These solutions work for all devices.




Videos - How to upload them and watch them.

Watching videos is easy, just click on the video option on the top bar and choose from the videos already uploaded.
To upload a video for others to view, there are 2 options.
1. You can add them directly onto the Video page. This is the more difficult  as it requires the full address of the embedded link.
2. An easier option is to add the video onto your 'Newsfeed' on your Profile page. Simply copy the URL from youtube and paste it onto the comment box. It will automatically upload onto the video page, where it can be viewed.


To delete an uploaded video.
You can find the delete option for your video on the Videos page.
You can also delete it from your newsfeed - Find the 'v' arrow on the top right of the box where you uploaded the video, click and the delete option will appear. You can then delete the video from your profile page - it will remain on the video page unless you also delete it there.

If you have any problems with doing this, please contact us and we will help out.

EMOTICONS!


Emoticons are always free. You can send one to someone by going to their profile, clicking on 'more' and opting for 'send emoticon'. There are lots to choose from and we are always adding more. They are a great way to send a little note! Send a few, send lots! Have fun and spread a little joy around!

And finally - don't forget our great discount subscription offer is running now. You do not have to subscribe to browse round and check out profiles, or say Bonjour', or send an emoticon but to contact someone, you will need to do so. Prices start from 5euro a month, that's not much for the chance of a life time of happiness!

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All about subscriptions....

Cancelling subscriptions and refunds

If you wish to cancel please do so via PayPal directly. It is very easy, but if you are having problems please let us know and we will do it for you.


Here's how...


1. My Profile

2. My Money

3. My Pre-approved payments   ---> Update

4, Click on the Merchant's name

5. View Payments

6. CANCEL 



Refunds.....

It depends on the circumstances.

If you inform us that you want to cancel but for some reason fail to do so, we will refund 100%

If it is for valid reasons we will refund 50% of your subscriptions.

If you just forgot, that isn't really our fault.

Please contact us and we will do all we can to help.

How much do Subscriptions cost?

Our prices are the lowest in France. Starting at 5 euro a month, we hope to give you the very best service at the lowest possible price.

30 days cost 30euros.
90 days cost 37.50euros. That's only 12.50euro per month.
360 days cost 90 euros. That's only 5euro a month!! Our very BEST price!


We also offer single 'one-off' payments which are not recurring and you do not have to worry about forgetting your subscriptions.


These are


1 month for 35euro

3 months for 45euro

1 year for 75 euro

Subscriptions are recurring until you cancel them unless you take advantage of the one-off payment. 

If you need a hand to cancel your subscription just contact us or drop a line to katiemay@expatdatingfrance.com

Can I pay with a credit/debit card?

Yes, we do accept credit cards.
We use paypal to facilitate this. You do not have to join paypal to use it.
The payment can be a one off payment or a recurring payment.
it is secure and handled entirely by paypal.

Please contact Katiemay@expatdatingfrance.com and we will help you out.

I do not want my payments to be recurring.

You can prevent payments recurring by cancelling your subscriptions to us through your paypal account. It is very easy and you will not lose any time period by doing so. If you pay for 90 days you will receive 90 days regardless of when you cancel.


OR you can pay a single payment by credit card or via the site using Paypal. 


Security

Your Security

In this area we would simply like to mention a few points about your safety and security. We have a number of verification procedures on site. We only approve around 1 in 3 applicants. But we all still need to work together and if you come across anyone who seems odd, please contact us immediately.


Expatdatingfrance does not sell or share any of your information to anyone.

Expatdatingfrance does not keep or save any of your payment details. You have full control of any payments through Paypal.


Expatdatingfrance NEVER shares private information about any data we may have been given, such as your email address, your home address or telephone numbers. THESE SHOULD NEVER BE GIVEN OUT TO ANYONE  AND SHOULD NOT BE PLACED WITHIN YOUR PROFILES.


We can only help protect you, but only you are ultimately responsible for your safety.


Expatdatingfrance is an exclusive online introduction and companionship site designed to help people find what they are looking for, but we ask that you are careful with your personal details and the information you provide. We do our best to vet any new users and do not approve anyone if we think they could be false accounts or they are joining from countries outside our ambit. We only allow people on the site who we think we can help, we remove or deny access to anyone who does not fit that criteria.


Trying to identify nefarious accounts can be very difficult and occasionally these accounts may get through our approval system.

Therefore, if you are troubled in any way, or are contacted by people who you have concerns about or are passed on personal email addresses, skype IDs or whatever, please inform us immediately.


Use the safety, security and anonymity of this site and always consider your safety and privacy first.

REMEMBER; IF ANYONE ASKS FOR MONEY, TO INVEST FOR YOU, TO HELP SOMEONE, EVEN FOR CHARITY, DO NOT DO IT!!! CONTACT US IF YOU HAVE ANY CONCERNS.


If you suffer from any sort of abuse please contact katiemay@expatdatingfrance.com. OR click on the 'flag' tab which many of the areas on the site have.









Blocking people and other worriesome behaviour

Please contact us if you are uncomfortable with anyone's behaviour, we can suspend or remove anyone causing problems and we will do so if necessary. You can block someone by going onto their 'my profile' page, clicking on 'more' (right of their photo) and choosing 'block'.

Is online dating safe?

Your experience here is as safe as we can make it, but it is a joint effort by you and us.

We only approve 1 in 3 applicants.

We have a strict approval process in place.

Nobody is allowed to join unless we think they fit into our society here. We try to sift out the scammers, scoundrels and we exclude the scantily clad - who are easier to spot! It has to be a team effort though and if anyone thinks there is a scammer or scoundrel in our midst, please tell us and we will act.


Quality is more important that quantity - our site members are an exclusive group and we believe you deserve the best.

Beware, be warned...

Here is a story from a poor lady who was scammed on a UK site (in no way associated with us).
It is repeated here as an example of how these thieves operate.
Encounters on or off the net should be treated with caution, a bit like fireworks, they are great fun provided they are handled safely. If someone acts like this or in any suspicious manner on this site, please contact us and we will check it out. Please remember, it is your responsibility to act with caution, we can only do so much.

"I was on the Surrey Advertisor dating site.  This is run by Global International in Windsor and links in with many of their other dating sites, so you can get people on there not just from Surrey, but from all over the UK.  This chap 'winked' at me.  He lived in Bakewell, Derbys.  He looked nice and his write up was good and intelligent.  To cut a long story short, we started chatting on the site, then to e-mail, then to Yahoo messenger and text.   A few days after we 'met' he said he had to go to Canada to quote on a job to project manage for a new shopping centre.  He offered to suspend our contact until he got back, but I agreed for it to continue.  Anyway, to cut a long story short, we kept in touch.  He quoted for the job and got it, then problems started with getting equipment in.  He didn't ask me for money, but I offered, as he had the so called back up to pay me back (he showed me a post dated cheque).  Of course it was all a scam.  It went on for 3 months before I realised.  He wove a sad family story of his Australian wife having been killed in a car accident.  His mother lived in Japan, and his daughter lived with her.  He sent photos.  I checked out his house in the UK (renting) and the flat he was renting in Canada.  He was on FB.  His business was on FB.  All documents he sent about the job, including plans of the development seemed real.  He sent photos of the site and the work.  

There is lots more I could say, but that's it in a nutshell.  Things to look out for (that you probably know anyway)

The person wants to go to e-mail straight away

They like Yahoo Messenger to chat on

The English can be good (this chap wrote intelligently), but there can be some very small grammatical mistakes

Sometimes American phrases are used.

They call you Hun, terms of endearment quite quickly.



I learned from the Police Inspector who came to see me that he had had 8 of us women on the go in Southern England.  He was possibly a Nigerian working out of Malaysian Internet Café's.  The police said the computer address seemed to come out of America, but with the so called 'dark net' this can actually be hidden.  Bank accounts were in Dubai, Malaysia and Canada.  It must have been a very well organised and carefully planned organisation."

How can I be sure who I'm chatting with?

If you are concerned about a person or just feel you'd like to be cautious, ask to 'friend' them on Facebook. If the person has a long history on Facebook, their friends and family are there. If it all just looks quite normal, then chances are it is. 

Don't become paranoid, just take normal precautions.

If you have any doubts, contact us and we'll do what we can to help.

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